An unhelpful addictive behaviour is like a runaway horse.
A difference is that instead of being terrified by the journey I am on, I am variously driven to kick the horse in the stomach, be unaware of the ride, or look back at the carnage of the journey with shame, guilt and remorse.
Shame guilt and remorse have been scientifically shown a number of times to be unhelpful. The feelings that accompany them tend to be de-energising and depleting. I might choose to look at the blog entry on unconditional self-acceptance and allow for my humanness. I am other than perfect.
In doing so I might Google neural plasticity and make a little room for my ability to alter an aspect of my feeling, thinking or acting.
Kick the horse in the stomach! Dopamine appears to figure very highly in unhelpful addictive behaviour, and has been referred to as a pleasure chemical. This appears to be an incorrect description. It seems to have much more to do with drive or compulsion - habit formation.
Rather than inevitable, the drive around a behaviour of mine, might perhaps be altered by an alteration in a thought, action or environment of mine.
Duigg in his book The Power of Habit, demonstrated that a habit is fragile. It can easily fall apart if one of the parts of it are altered. While it might easily fall apart, there is no suggestion that the process of me altering an aspect of what I do might in any way be simple.
It has been proven to involve a little bit of commitment - combined with planning, practice, persistence and patience. Especially patience regarding an outcome, feedback or perceived progress of mine, and also patience with my very human self.
They talk a lot now about being ‘in the zone’ to achieve a great thing. Being in ‘flow state’ and being absorbed by the thing in question.
It seems to me this is a higher mind phenomenon and an example of the creativity of a human brain.
It seems like a similar state occurs in unhelpful addictive behaviour. Because it appears to happen in my lower mind and is more to do with compulsion, habit, and auto pilot, it doesn’t produce a helpful outcome.
What might help me is doing a HoV from the blog article here. Doing a BCM. Waking up my higher mind to what is actually going on, as it sits in an armchair scratching its butt. Get it involved in what might help. Do a little bit of exercise, breathing, or purposeful relaxation of some sort, and take an action I feel might be helpful.
Rather than look at an outcome of that action as saying something about me, look at it as feedback only. How might I adjust? How might I improve? How might I progress?
Making ‘a same mistake’ has been scientifically shown to be a common human thing to do. Rather than being inevitable, it highlighted the requirement for me to have a little bit of stick-to-it and a willingness to, eventually, get back up.
”Rather than ask for victory, I ask for persistence.
For when I go on in a struggle, I bring honour to myself.
Even more, I bring honour to us all.” - Ancient Greek
I bring honour to myself by contemplating my human condition and I bring honour to myself by doing something likely to be more helpful.
I wish great Power of Choice for you.