Working Towards a more Balanced Life of My Active CHOICE
The process of having a different life - maybe gradually making a thing that I find helpful more attractive and easier to do - gradually making a thing I find unhelpful less attractive and more challenging to do.
BALANCED LIFE DEVELOPMENT
The purpose of BLD or BuiLD is to give me a tool, technique, or mindset that empowers me a little and enables me to live a slightly fuller richer life.
The emphasis is on addressing an unhelpful feeling, or unhelpful thought, or unhelpful action - attempting slightly more often to have a more helpful emotion, spend more time with a helpful thought or take a slightly more helpful action.
WHERE MIGHT I START?
I Might Build Power in a Thing I Would Rather Do.
HIERARCHY OF VALUES
From the work of Joe Gerstein
I might go into the BLOG here, and I might download the tool HoV.
I might then make a list of a thing that is important to me - that I would rather have in my life, or back in my life.
I might look at, amongst other areas, Physical, Mental, Emotional, Helpful Family or Close Friend, Helpful Social, Financial.
Once I have this list I might write out WHY this thing is important to me - especially how HELPFUL it is or might be.
In selling, "reason tells, emotion sells" - it might help me to get a bit more emotional about this thing, in a HELPFUL way, and really desire this thing.
It might help me to be AWARE that altering my behaviour is likely to be uncomfortable and it is probably helpful that I let go a little of a requirement that I actually LIKE this process.
BENEFIT-COST MATRIX - BCM
Getting Clearer on the Benefit versus the Cost
I might go to the BLOG here and download the BCM.
I might write the thing I want to start doing, or would prefer that I stop doing, at the top of the tool.
I might follow the instructions, I might work with it for a while, and I might get clearer, more AWARE, and attempt to get some CHOICE into this automatic pilot system in my glorious HUMAN brain.
UNCONDITIONAL SELF-ACCEPTANCE - USA
What might I be worth?
I might be worth everything I have ever done or not done - helpful or unhelpful.
In addition I might be worth everyone who has ever loved me or hated me.
Finally I might be worth every thought I have ever had - helpful or unhelpful.
I might take these three ingredients, take every item within them and assign them a value.
In order to get a scale on which to place myself, it would be necessary to get every person in the world to do exactly the same thing at exactly the same time - as time moves, so would these things alter.
How hard does that sound?
Or, I might CHOOSE to accept the notion that "I HAVE ONE HUMAN BEING'S WORTH OF VALUE."
I might choose to go to the BLOG here and download the tool USA - Unconditional Self-Acceptance and sit with it for a while.
Certainly, how I might choose to 'invest' the value of me - what I choose to do, to think, and how I feel - that I might choose to evaluate for how helpful or unhelpful it is.
Mark Twain said:
“Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see”
While it is VERY human to mercilessly give myself an impossibly hard time, I might go to the BLOG section here and download USA - Unconditional Self-Acceptance - and possibly consider accepting my common HUMANNESS.